Newly Singled
person,
Welcome to your online course in getting from what may well be
the worse time of your life ......to the best time of your life .
Together, you and I are going to make history.
How?
By proving to a skeptical, passive world of counseling
experts and long term "still adjusting" singles, that your
getting on with a new life,
need not.... involve or require the usual two to three years or
more of being miserable.
Your life is made up of
time, and it is to precious to waste more then a moment more
then necessary in this state.
-- (You and I will get thru this together in less
then 6 months, if you promise to really work at it.)
That despite all the gloom and
doom others are trying to spread about your situation and your
status as a newly singled person............,
You are going to find it's far easier and
faster to do than you had ever hoped.
To begin:
If there's any
concept I want you to grasp today, it is: This time YOU ARE IN
CHARGE of what happens to you".
What that means is this:
You want to start recognizing that if your new life now turns out
to be the pits six months from now, you won't have anyone to blame
but yourself.........
because this is the first time
YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOU.
Nope, you won't be
able to blame your mother, your ex, or anyone at all......
Because this
time
you are the one that gets to plan what happens in your life.
You alone pick your new
friends,
You alone decide what you want
to happen in Act 2 of your life.
Think of this as the
opportunity of your lifetime, your chance to learn to take
control and responsibility for your own success and happiness.
Remember, from here on out, there's no one
else to blame..
Yup, from here on, you are it....
But - add the word
"OPPORTUNITY" to remind yourself that you don't want your new
life to be just a happenstance of whatever comes down the
pike.
You are learning
how to be totally in control and in charge of you, to take control
and make your new life a big, joyful success. You have a
genuine opportunity right now to do just that.
This also means you are not going
to try and repeat Act 1, where you were a bit player in other
peoples play.
From here on YOU are in charge
of what happens.
You now cast yourself as
the STAR in your new life play.
You alone get to cast who
the bit players are in your new play and what part they play.
In other words, your new motto is:
"If it is to be, it is up to
me."
While other suddenly singled are
moaning "my life has been ruined",
you are now fully aware that
you are looking forward to moving on to this great new life, and as
a result your new outlook will stand out from that despairing
crowd.,
Confidence and awareness that, no matter how bad
or mixed up you feel right now, you know that you are on the way
to bigger and better things.
This is the Turning point:
Once you make that firm
decision, that this is what you are now doing, you are half way
there.
That's the big part of the methods
others have used to accomplish this move to the best time of their
life.
Make this decision and commitment to
yourself.
Scary it
is..
I know that you need to recognize
that this being totally IN CHARGE OF YOU can seem a little
scary at first..
But a word of warning: ,
Your emotional feelings will be,
for a while, a constant, ongoing, rolling roller coaster ranging
from down-to-total despair to up-to-new heights of elation about
your new life.
You are not
alone.
We and other single folks are here to help because we have been
there and have come out the other side.
You may well
have a time distortion and it will seem like it is taking
forever.
.... but it is not...
For now we just want to increase
your imagination by stretching your mind to view the future of what
you want your new life to be.
Be creative, risky, bold, daring, and whatever
you were NOT in your old life.
See it in your minds eye.
Now stick with us on
this. We are trying to show you a new way of thinking. Just let
my words, and these short lessons, seep in...
As you will see, there are some
program changes to be made in your mental adjustment software.
Sincerely,
Harlan
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