All of us going thru a divorce suffer and go thru some pain in the process.
True, some more than others, which we will get into at another time.
We can just visualize your quota of pain you have to go thru and experience and tell you that you can ration it to make it more tolerable, and take a "little pain" for a very long time or you can really get into some devastating almost unbearable pain for a short time and get it over with.
If you go to your Doctor and tell him this divorce pain, is just too much "give me something" to make it bearable.He will, and certainly the pain will be less but it will likely hang around for a very long time.
If however you decide you are tough and can handle pain, and want to get it over with and get on with life.....then consider deliberately planning and setting up,
"The Most Miserable Day of Your Life"
- Send the kids to grandmas,
- Take the day off.
- Take the phone off the hook.
- Stock up on Kleenex
- Dig out all your wedding pictures
- Lay out all the love letters you got.
- Start early, make it a full day.
- Get out the vacation and travel photos you enjoyed together.
- All the photos of you both together with the new babys.
- The holiday and family pictures.
Spend the whole day pouring over these, remembering, crying, pound the table, really get into being miserable. (do not call or talk to anyone, do not answer the door.)
Most that I have interviewed that have gone thru "The Most Miserable Day Of Your Life," tell me that about 3 or 4 in the afternoon they became bored and sick and tired of the whole thing and "decide" I just don't want to do this anymore.They also told me it was the turning point in "letting go" of "what was" and "what might have been" and getting on with "going to be".
You could do this over the usual two years, mucking around with it, or you can do it in this one tough day.
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