your new life goes will depend a great deal on building the right
kind of support group of new friends. Your selection of these
friends will be the biggest determinate of the direction your new
life takes and your overall success and happiness.
only your spouse, but
a whole big support
system of married friends when you moved over to Singletopia.
You may now have
erroneously concluded that you need to find one super person to
fill all these needs that have become readily apparent since you
became suddenly single.
The main key for you to adjust
to single life is to develop a large group of well adjusted
strong single friends. A Supportive Singles family.
Not one big
all encompassing "fill all my needs" relationship.
Right now you need
many different people to serve many different needs as a growing
and thriving single person. You will grow more as a person
as a result of and through this new network of single friends in
the next 6 months than you did in your previous 10 years.
Up until this major change in
your life you had primarily friends approved by either
your parents or your spouse.
As a single,
you develop many friends from both of the two major sexes and
this time they are all of your choosing. That's right. This
time you can and do develop close personal friends of both sexes.
What you are doing now is developing
a security blanket, a singles family of unmarrieds, many of
whom are several pages ahead of you in starting a great new life
on their own. Single adults that are functioning happily as
single captains of their own fate.
You will become
like this network of new single friends. Choose, nourish,
and build this network with great care.
The direction and success of
the rest of your life depends on it. As much as 90% of the
good things and changes that will happen in your life ahead will
be as a direct result of this support system of single friends.
* New articles
on building this all important network of of new single friends
appears in new issues of our singles newspapers, online editions,
archives and as part of several of the series.