Overcoming the Fears of Divorce

The new fears surfacing during and as a result of your divorce process become a heavy wave of fear and add much more despair to an already overloaded period in your life.

Fear is a major factor in the stress and moving on from your divorce.

Fear of the unknown.

Probably more "unknowns" hanging over your head, than any other time in your life.

What catastrophe happens to me next?

You will need to learn how to handle these fears that seem to come along with the divorce process..

If you do not learn how to confront and control these fears of divorce, you risk losing your emotional and physical health and the joy of living.

Fear has been with you forever, and has all along the way touched every aspect of your life.
Here are some examples of fears to help jog your memory...failure, the future, financial insecurity, rejection, injury, success, height, water, fire, flying, germs, relationships or lack of, death, sex, or lack of, war, losing something, not getting something, getting caught for wrongdoings, crowds, public speaking, relapsing, being wrong, the opposite sex, the same sex, the unknown, health problems, any phobias , etc.

This heightened state of fear during the divorce process, may derive from a self-centered fear that as a result of our divorce that we will lose something that we already have or not ever again be able to get something that we want or need.

Get these fears out in the open by submitting them to paper and take a good look at them.

Write down each fear that you have experienced as a result of and a part of the divorce process experience.

Fear of the unknown or what catastrophe happens next is the great problem with the divorce process.

If is perfectly normal to be uncomfortable with anything new or unknown, and becomes a fear when the unknown can include losses.

To overcome these fears, simply become informed and knowledgeable about all things in your divorce, that lie ahead.

When you know all about it, it no longer is a fear. Read up on and become informed, on this web site and associated links..

We have spent years putting together what you need to know to survive divorce and to move on to a second chance to get on with a great new life.

You need not be afraid of and/or powerless, when it comes to what you know how to handle.

You have no experience and little or no knowledge about what you are going thru. It is natural to have fears about what you know nothing about.

Others have gone thru it and left you the information you need to know, so go thru this process, totally informed and knowledgeable.

If you remain ignorant about it and afraid, it is in a large part because you simply have not done your home work.

It is very important to learn how to handle your fears, get them under your control, to get thru your divorce recovery process.

The uncertainty of your new roles, all on your own, perhaps feeling for the first time in your life, not having someone around as a baby sitter.
For the first time the almost complete isolation you face and the lack of the unknown, together all stress you out far more than when you had been going through your daily life before divorce. .

With the onset of the split, often fears started to run wild.

You will eventually come to realize you do not have control over events or other people.

However, you do have total control over your response to events and to people..

This is where we begin to wage our battle with fear

Yes, the only control you have is over yourself.

Perhaps for the first time you are now totally in charge and control of your own life.

You alone have all responsibility for you. That is indeed scary.

Can you handle it?

It is now your choice on how you will choose to live it.

Choose now how you will obtain the necessary tools, knowledge and assistance to live your life with more happiness, more joy and more love then you have ever experienced before.

You must do something about these needless fears immediately if you find yourself being overwhelmed and experiencing fear.

Consider fear as the enemy.

Visualize your mind as a house. When you leave the doors and windows open, these fears rush in and take over.

Close your mental windows and doors and lock them out, and they will soon go away.