WHAT'S YOUR EXCUSE?For Your Single Life
Harlan Jacobsen Copyright © 2003
Most singles who aren't succeeding with their single life
nearly always can come up with an "Excuse" for
why they're not succeeding. Their personalized Excuse for why single life is just not
working for them.
For some it's their age, for some it's their weight, for some
it's their income, and for some, it's a reason outside of
themselves, maybe it's where they happen to live, or where
What Excuse have you come up with for why you don't succeed
with a happy enthused life as a single person like you had
Stop right now and write down
your own personal Excuse for your life "basically
failing" as a single person.
Then, see if you can
figure out where that "why my life as single person is
not working" Excuse came from.
Did something happen
along the way in your life that led you to believe that your
Excuse was REALITY?
Did you have a
particularly traumatic event happen in your past life that has
never been resolved and filed, that led you to your
"single life does not work for me" excuse?
Here's the most interesting part of this particular
phenomenon.. your Excuse is likely not an original excuse,
IT'S LIKELY VERY COMMON EXCUSE!
And guess what?
I guarantee you that there are MANY, MANY singles in this
world that have overcome your very same situation (excuse) and
gone on to succeed enthusiastically with single life.
I think that "Your Single Life does not work for me
Excuse" is your way as of making it easier to avoid
THE REASON FOR FAILURE IS
YOUR MENTAL PROGRAM THAT RUNS YOUR LIFE. IT'S THE WAY
YOU THINK AND BEHAVE
Now the PROBLEM with Your Excuse
isn't the excuse itself, it's the fact that most singles don't
know how to OVERCOME what they are using as their
Your Excuses can program themselves
into your mind so deeply that you don't even realize the
effects that they're having.
If you believe for example,
that the opposite sex won't feel attracted to you because
you're, say, overweight, then you won't even go out to meet
and mix with other singles. Wont even TRY to meet and
develop single friends. You'll just assume that it's no use.
This leads to even worse problems,
like fear of going out, fear of talking to people, fear of
doing new things etc.
When you decide that there is
some big reason (Your Excuse) that is preventing you from even
the POSSIBILITY of success in life as a single person, it
begins to affect EVERYTHING in your life.
So what's the solution to this
MAJOR cause of failure in your life as a single person?
I'd say that being able to get
to where you throw this excuse in the dumpster, is at LEAST a
two step process:
1) First you need to identify your own "why my life as a
single is not working Excuse", and you need to look
around to find examples of other singles who have overcome the
very same "obstacle" (excuse), and who have gone on
to succeed with a happy enthusiastic life as a single.
These single people will provide you with some real-life
evidence that what you're dealing with is not final and
2) You need to get an education about life as single, and what
makes single life work.
Thousands of singles "give
up" on ever making single life work and just totally
withdraw from the active single life world, literally hide in
a cave and the rest of their life just lick their emotional
What a needless waste of a life time,
One of the reasons that I've put so much time, and effort into
researching and testing "what works" and certainly
to greatly help you in making your new single life work.
To get you from what now may be the
most miserable time of your life, to the "best time of
Go thru our online single life
education articles we have posted to date get out and practice
using it. Practice what you have learned, observe how other
singles who used to use your "Excuse".
Then if you still have not found answers to get past what is
hanging your life up, remember we have only about one third of
our 30 years of research material posted so far.
E-mail me any time and we will pull what is needed out of our
files and post it for you and others, or write you personal
answers, answers that
we may not have ever written before.
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