Marriage and love relationships used to be primarily
Today they are "primarily" affectional.
You used to love one another because you needed each other to survive,
and now you need each other only because you love each
When the"love ends" the
reason for the relationship and the relationship itself usually ends.
You must learn that "affectional" love and individuals both have their limitations.
In the past you needed a marriage partner "to survive.
- One was the provider, the other took care of the inevitable
children, cooked, washed, mended and maintained clothing, maintained
the household, canned, tended the garden and the chickens.
- Both can now "survive" on their own just
fine, thank you.
- Therefore , now when one or the other concludes that the relationship
is no longer affectional, the reason for the relationship and
the relationship comes apart.
Psychology Today, reports in a recent survey that 25% of those
"saying they were happily married", had a partner that said they
Rarely do both decide at the same time that
the relationship is no longer affectional, and no longer working.
- When one checks out of the relationship, the other is often
left in complete surprise and shock.
- They often conclude in a panic, that
their one chance for "affection" in their life" has just
The old myth that there is
only one man or woman for you in your life has now days,
gone down the tube..
If you are genuinely capable of love, you can love many times
and many people. Second marriages, for example, are often a much stronger
love than the first marriage.
- The old myth that there was only one love
for each personhas brought much devastation to many people over
The idea that if you just marry that certain someone
it will cure all your problems and you will live happily ever after,
is a very cruel hoax.
- The idea that all you have to do is find them
and that they will do the rest will get you nowhere.
True love is a sort of form of
You learn to love
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